Couples & Sex Therapy
I specialize in couples and sex therapy. With me as your therapist, couples counseling includes working with relationships of all types and structures found in today's world, including same-sex and poly-structured families. Relationships often include a sexual element, and my training in both Marriage and Family Therapy and Sex Therapy allows me to offer solutions to clients struggling with dysfunction or emotional disconnect with their partners.
Sexless Relationships
Sexless relationships are on the rise, with an estimated 40 million Americans in romantic relationships that are not sexual. By definition, a sexless relationship is where the frequency of sex is 10 times per year or less, or less than once per month. When sex goes away, it is not easy to return to it for various reasons. I help couples identify the underlying issues and determine how to move forward, usually including a specific plan of intentional actions and time. Sexlessness is different from desire discrepancy, which is one of the main drivers that bring couples to therapy. Different interventions are used to help a couple navigate their desire differences.
Negotiating New Relationship Structures
Couples often come to me when they are interested in negotiating a new relationship structure. Contemporary relationships include many expressions, including being sexually open to various polyamorous structures, often called consensual non-monogamy. I help couples discuss their motivations and set up boundaries when they are ready to explore these changes.
Adapting to Change
As humans, we continue to change and develop throughout our lifetime. Sexual function changes as we do, which can be challenging to accept. Our bodies age, and illness and other life challenges can create a demand for change. When we analyze the circular model of sex, we determine ways to sexually express yourself that will work with your partner.
Maintaining and Rebuilding Intimate Connection
Maintaining and rebuilding intimate connection can seem impossible; however, it is very possible. Helen Fisher, a famous anthropologist whose work I have studied, has researched why and how people fall in love. In this video, she explains why it is important to have sex with your partner, be emotionally attached to them, and how to think about one another.
Take the first step today
Ready to improve your relationship and intimacy? Contact me today to schedule an appointment and start your journey towards a more fulfilling and connected relationship.
